Have you ever searched for a missing ‘everyday item’ like your keys or your glasses? You checked in your purse, doubting they would be there, and of course they weren’t. But after you looked everywhere else they could possibly be, you went back to your purse and – lo and behold – they were right there the whole time. I know I’ve had this experience several times, and I couldn’t understand it at first. But I had another seemingly unrelated experience that helped me understand exactly what happened here…
I go to the store to find a replacement brush head for my electric toothbrush. Have you been through the toothbrush aisle lately? I was overwhelmed by the amount of choices. I just stand there for a moment, staring at the wall of brushes. Finally, I snap out of the trance and start looking at the packages, trying to find the right brush for not only my brand but also my model – because the same brand makes different models and their replacement brushes are not compatible. It’s exasperating. Finally, I find the right one – it says on the package that it will fit my toothbrush, so I buy it and bring it home.
I get home, open the package, try to put the brush head on my toothbrush and, aaarrrrgggghhhh – it won’t fit. I twist and turn it – no luck. Now I’m beyond frustrated. I go back to the package and I read it again. It clearly states my brand and model number as being compatible. Oh, okay then. I try it again, push it down hard, and guess what…it fits!
What happened in both of the experiences? My mind was playing tricks on me. Just like your mind plays tricks on you. You see, our beliefs create our reality. In the first experience, I believed the keys couldn’t possibly be in purse, and my mind wanted to make me right, so when I looked, they were not there. After I checked everywhere else, I started to believe that they might be in my purse after all – and there they were. In the second example, I had trouble putting the brush head on the toothbrush – until I read the package again, which removed any doubt that it was the right one.
I share these experiences with you because I believe they are simple examples of how powerful our beliefs are. They truly shape our experience of reality. We get what we expect. If we expect the worse, if we doubt things will work out, if we believe we won’t get what we want – that’s exactly what will happen – and our mind will smugly say, “I knew it all along”. Some people call these self-fulfilling prophecies. Others use the saying, “Be careful what you wish for”.
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ― Napoleon Hill
So, can we get what we want by simply believing we can? I think we can get much closer to success if that’s what we expect. We all have self-limiting beliefs that are holding us back, whether they are around money, relationships, or success. The trick is to become aware of these self-limiting beliefs, because they often work in the background (like a virus on the computer). Then delete them and install more empowering ones. For example, change “I always have the worse luck” to “Things always seem to work out for the best for me”. Let’s open up the conversation – what do you think? How are your beliefs creating your reality?