Have you been too busy, too tired, too stressed and too overworked for too long? Are you killing yourself to get things done?
Ever wonder if there’s a better way?
Productivity is overrated. Yes, you read that right. I know I’ve been a big advocate of productivity – guilty as charged.
For some reason, I’ve been coaching a lot of perfectionists lately. (We teach what we are meant to learn). And what I’ve noticed is that sometimes, we push ourselves too hard, and often for the wrong reasons. We need to stop measuring ourselves by the things we get done and focus more on the value of who we are being.
Let’s take organizing our homes as an example. We get frustrated when we don’t accomplish all that we expect of ourselves – without analyzing how realistic our expectations might be. Instead of celebrating our accomplishments, we become frustrated that things aren’t moving fast enough and we get overwhelmed about how much more there is to do.
Organizing is not a destination; like achieving many of our goals, it’s a process.
Celebrate your progress instead of beating yourself up for what you haven’t achieved. You don’t have to wait for everything to get done before you can enjoy life.
Sometimes going outside to enjoy nature is more beneficial than cleaning your house.
Sometimes getting enough sleep is the most productive thing you can do.
We try not to be judgmental of others and yet we judge ourselves so harshly.
Here are 7 ways to replace self-doubt with self-acceptance.
- Don’t flog yourself for every failure. Forgive yourself. You are not perfect. And yet, you are perfect in your imperfection. Look at your mistakes as lessons; the more mistakes you make, the wiser you grow.
- Accept that flaws make us who we are. Embrace them. They’re what make us human.
- Silence your inner critic. When that voice inside your head tells you it’s not good enough, find a mantra to override it. I like to use “It’s good enough for now”. Choose what works for you – and use it.
- Stop seeking approval from others. You have no control over what others think. Be your own cheerleader.
- Eliminate (or at least reduce) the time you spend with toxic people. Surround yourself with those who champion you.
- Remember the good reviews. Instead of blaming yourself for all the things you are not, focus on your strengths. Make a list so you won’t forget them. Add to it every day. Review it often.
- Finally, remember that your performance doesn’t make you any more or less loveable to others, so it shouldn’t make you any less loveable to yourself.