When my mother-in- law passed away over a year ago, my husband and I took on the emotionally taxing task of clearing out her closet. She didn’t buy a lot of new clothes for herself, preferring to spend her money on gifts for others; so the clothing she kept over the years was well-worn…except for one item. We found it tucked away at the very back on the closet. It was on a hanger and covered with the type of opaque plastic bag you would get from the store when you bought a new suit. I was intrigued. When I uncovered it, I found a brand new, luxuriously thick, white robe. The store tags were still on. This was clearly a gift she had received, because she would never splurge that way on herself.
Coming across this robe made me incredibly sad. If anyone deserved to wear this beautiful robe, it was this incredibly generous, kind woman. And yet she never had the chance to enjoy it. But she had it for a while. I couldn’t help but wonder – what was she saving it for? It still brings tears to my eyes.
It reminded me of the time my husband and I bought new dishes for her as a gift. She packed them away and continued to eat off her mismatched, chipped dishes. (Although I think she brought them out to serve Christmas dinner one year).
Use up your good things. Don’t save them for company; or for a special occasion. Or for when you think you might earn the right to enjoy them. You deserve better than that. I know my mother-in-law did.
Why wait until your current undies are completely worn out before you wear the new ones you have tucked away? Delight in wearing them now rather than postponing and perhaps missing the chance. The hilarious and wise Loretta LaRoche says, “Life is short, wear your party pants” (referring to the pretty panties we tend to save for a special occasion).
“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”
― Hunter S. Thompson
Perhaps you are not using your new things because you are waiting for the items you currently use to be completely spent – you are being frugal. But consider that not using your new things is just as wasteful as throwing good things away. Use the good stuff today. Otherwise, someday when your children are cleaning out your things after you’re gone, they’ll come across your beautiful but unused things and feel incredibly sad too.
What are you postponing for ‘someday’? How do you feel about using it now, instead? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.