Have you ever found a really good hiding place for something valuable, put it there for safe-keeping…and then torn the house upside-down frantically looking for it later – because you forgot where you hid it? This was the experience of one of my coaching clients recently – yet something really great came out of her moment of panic. She gave me permission to share her story…
Karen (not her real name) was looking for her son’s passport. She looked everywhere for it, in all the obvious places, but it was nowhere to be found.
Have you ever had the experience of looking in your purse for something – say, your wallet – and couldn’t put your fingers on it. So you turned your purse upside-down and dumped everything out on the floor?
Well, my client started emptying everything out of closets and drawers looking for the passport. It wasn’t as daunting as it would have been in the past, because she had been working diligently on purging the excess and felt she had decluttered as much as she could.
But now, with everything out in the open, she could clearly see that there was still more to get rid of. Many people stop decluttering after their initial purge, and hesitate to go beyond what’s comfortable.
She shared with me that there were many items she had kept ‘just in case’ – and this came as a complete surprise to her. She went ahead and removed those last few articles (about 50 things), donating some to charity and others to friends that could really use them.
And afterwards, she felt triumphant. It was a much more powerful feeling than she had experienced before, during the initial purge. She likened it to losing that last 5 pounds you can’t seem to shed, even years after you lose lots of weight on a diet. It’s a really good analogy because when you get rid of stuff, you do feel lighter.
She told me “I feel the most organized and in control I’ve ever felt in my entire life” and that she feels like a new person (music to my ears – I felt so happy for her). She is confident that she will never find herself with clutter again, and I believe it, because she has had a complete shift in her perspective.
Those ‘just in case thing’ we hold on to, it’s just fear. What you are really saying is ‘what if I can’t afford to buy them again if I need them?’ Once scarcity thinking is replaced with faith and the belief that abundance is your birthright, you think differently. The shackles are off and you do become a new person. Karen agreed to let me share her epiphany so that it may inspire others to tackle those last few items and finally be free. And by the way, freedom is not the only thing Karen found. She found the passport too! How has Karen’s story inspired you? Please share in the comments section below.